Like most, I was raised on the concept of: “what do you want to DO that makes you happy?”.
It’s a good question and it came from a good place but there was one problem. It created a backwards approach to life. Let me unpack that a bit more for you.
Happiness is not something you DO, but it is something you choose.
Happiness is a state-of-being, it’s not an action.
The old paradigm of THINK about what you want to DO that will make you FEEL happy so that you can BE happy doesn’t work.
I’ve learnt the hard way that this process is completely backwards! It’s not the natural order your mind/body is designed to function from.
Think, Do, Feel, Be. It sounds great but it won’t get you where you want to go.
The proper order is:
Anne Bérubé shares this revolutionary concept in her memoir titled… you guessed it:
Be Feel Think Do. (If you haven’t read it, I highly recommend it.)
This is the natural process of total behaviour.
How to action this
Let me help you apply this in a tangible way.
- Take a breath.
- Choose a thought that sparks joy for you.
- Be with that state of joy.
- Feel into that state of joy and allow it to expand.
- Open yourself to thoughts that amplify that state of joy.
- Allow that state of BEing to drive what you choose to DO.
By using your state of being to energize how you show up for life, you tap into that Divine infinite source of energy that will continuously fill your tank instead of leaving you running on empty.
Like all things, integrating a new practice takes time and intention. But I promise you, if you keep this new process in your awareness, you’ll start living from this new model automatically.
If you’re looking for a way to stay accountable as you make the changes you need, my Dream Life Mastermind Facebook group is the perfect way to get your feet wet.
Your happiness advocate,
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