The Override: Why You Ignore Your Gut (And How to Finally Listen)
Your gut knew first.
Before you had evidence. Before anyone else saw it. Your gut knew that person wasn’t safe, that deal was wrong, that something was off. And you overrode it. You smiled when you wanted to run. You said yes when everything inside you screamed no.
Today’s guest spent over a decade in an abusive relationship—and her biggest regret isn’t what he did to her. It’s how long she ignored what her body was screaming.
Patti Stewart is the founder of Defense in Heels, a published author, and a passionate advocate for women’s safety. But what makes her work remarkable isn’t just the physical techniques she teaches—it’s that she survived by learning to trust the instincts she’d been taught to silence.
In This Episode, You’ll Discover:
- The difference between instinct and intuition—and why confusing them keeps you stuck
- The “chest vs. stomach” test for distinguishing fear from true gut wisdom
- Where we first learn to override our intuition (hint: it starts in childhood)
- Why Patti walked away from a job that was paying all her bills—as a single mom
- How to schedule slowdowns so you can actually hear what your intuition is telling you
- The shiny object trap: winning on the outside while feeling empty on the inside
- What “prosperity without compromise” actually looks like in practice
MEMORABLE MOMENTS
From Patti:
“If it’s in your chest, that’s anxiety and fear. If it’s in your stomach, that’s your intuition.”
“I was winning all the awards. But I went home and felt like crap.”
From Anik:
“Instinct keeps you safe. Intuition keeps you aligned. The problem? They can feel identical.”
“That’s prosperity without compromise. Not making money at any cost. Making money that doesn’t cost you your soul.”
RESOURCES MENTIONED
Patti Stewart:
Website: https://www.defenseinheels.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/defenseinheels
Book – A Woman’s Guide to Self-Defense: https://a.co/d/02wCnZq9
Ready to Go Deeper?
Book a Clarity Call: https://masteringascension.com/coaching/
Your Breakthrough Blueprint (Free quiz): subscribepage.io/breakthroughblueprint
The You & Your Soul-Led Business Program: https://ascensionacademy.life/product/you-your-soul-led-business-development-program/
CONNECT WITH ANIK
Website: https://masteringascension.com/coaching/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anikmalenfant
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anikmalenfant/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/anik.malenfant
NEXT EPISODE PREVIEW
Next week, we’re going deep on something Patti touched on today—and it might be the most important distinction you’ll ever learn.
E20: Instinct vs. Intuition — The Difference That Changes Everything
One reacts from perceived danger. One response from alignment. And most people can’t tell which one is talking. That confusion is costing you—in relationships, in business decisions, in the opportunities you say no to when your gut is actually saying yes.
